Across the world, 49 million people have tried online dating at one point or another.
Maybe you’re one of them, but you haven’t had any success connecting with other online daters.
Online dating is the perfect place to get back out there and meet new people. But there are some common pitfalls you need to avoid. These are the top mistakes.
- Not Thinking About Safety
You never know who you’re actually meeting up with, so you should take necessary precautions.
If you do decide to meet up, make sure it’s in a public place and you have an exit if you need one. Drive yourself there so that you can leave whenever you want.
Let someone else know where you’re going and who you’re going with so they can check on you and follow up if need be.
Also, keep in mind when filling out your profile, make sure that you don’t have too much of your information out there.
- Choosing a Bad Profile Photo
Many people judge people based on their photo before they even read their profile, so make sure you have a good one.
Make sure that it’s not blurry or out of focus and that everyone can clearly see it’s you. That means making sure that you’re the only one in the picture so people don’t have to guess which person is actually you.
You also shouldn’t use photos that are ten years old. Find one that was taken somewhat recently. You want your match to be able to recognize you if you meet up in person.
Find a picture that you feel like accurately represents who you are.
- Having a Boring Conversation
When you match with other online daters, make sure that you have an interesting and engaging conversation.
If you just have a boring “what are you up to” conversation, you may not get very far. You want to stand out from all the other matches they have, and by having an interesting conversation, you are more likely to win them over.
- Being Too Picky
This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t have standards, but you shouldn’t be too picky either.
Figure out what things you want to compromise on and which things are an absolute deal breaker.
For example, if someone’s profile says that they like a certain type of music that you don’t, that shouldn’t deter you from matching with them. Sometimes differences in a relationship can be a good thing.
- Picking the Wrong Platform
There are all kinds of different online dating sites that you can sign up for. They all have different goals and different types of people on them.
For example, there are sites that require you to pay a subscription, and those sites may have people who are more serious about dating because they are putting money into it.
It depends what you are looking to get out of a relationship, but don’t be on Tinder expecting a long term relationship when you may be able to find it easier on eHarmony.
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- Having a Bad First Date
If you do get to the point where you match with someone and they agree to a first date, make sure that you try and make it go as smoothly as possible.
Make sure that you keep things lowkey and something that doesn’t cost a lot of money. If you are meeting with lots of people for first dates, it could get expensive quickly.
Make sure that you still have a good and engaging conversation. When in doubt, just be yourself. It can be weird to see the person you’ve been talking to online finally in person, but if you be yourself, you have more of a chance of winning them over.
- Lying on Your Profile
In addition to being yourself on dates, make sure that you are being yourself online as well.
Don’t lie on your profile, no matter how easy it may seem. This could hurt you and your potential partner.
More often than not, someone will fall for you just based on who you are, and not what you think they may like about you.
Starting out a relationship based on lies that were in your profile is not a good start to a healthy relationship.
- Having a Blank Profile
Going off that, make sure that you fill out your profile!
Your profile picture can only tell people so much, and this is the chance for you to showcase your interests, what you’re looking for, and who you really are.
This can be the final deciding factor for some people to match with you.
- Sending Inappropriate Messages or Pictures
That doesn’t mean to never do it, but if it’s someone you just met or is unwanted, this will definitely turn someone off.
You don’t want to make the person feel uncomfortable, and sending them unwanted inappropriate message or pictures will be a quick way to get yourself blocked.
- Know When It’s Time to Move On
Because you can match with so many people online, there are also more opportunities to deal with rejection.
If someone isn’t responding to your messages or blocked you or won’t reply, this probably means that they’re not interested in you. You shouldn’t keep messaging them and trying to get them back, but rather you should just let them go and move on.
Don’t harass someone if they’re not interested you or ask them over and over to go out with you even if they said no to begin with.
Respect everyone’s boundaries and know when it’s time to let go.
Find Other Online Daters Today
Matching with other online daters can be difficult, but if you avoid some of these common mistakes, you may have more luck.
If you’ve started matching with people, check out this article on how to start a good and funny conversation.